Watching someone you care about struggle with addiction can be truly heartbreaking. It can really take its toll on their health, both physically and mentally, as well as affecting things like work, relationships and you can often feel powerless to help.
However, that’s not necessarily the case. While they are responsible and need to step up to recognise the problem and get the help they need, you can provide them with encouragement to get that help.
This is where an intervention can play a big role, but staging one isn’t easy and you do have to get it right to ensure they take what you’re saying on board. Here’s what you need to know to make sure you approach it in the best possible way…
Preparing for an Intervention
The success of any intervention will largely come down to the preparation work you do. Among the key things you need to take on before you even speak to your loved one are:
Gather information
Firstly, do your background research. Getting to understand addiction is so crucial, from the feelings they are going through to the help that is available. Research the urgent rehab options, what help is available longer term, and the pros and cons of each. This will allow you to answer any questions they have, but also be more informed and empathetic to what they are experiencing.
Choosing people to help
You shouldn’t take on an intervention alone. It’s strength in numbers and having other people who are close to your loved one and also concerned can add more authority to your intervention. Don’t have too many people, as you don’t want to overwhelm your loved one, while you should choose people who are calm, patient and respectful. The last thing you want is for someone to fly off the handle during the intervention and cause conflict.
Planning what to say
Actually having an idea of what you want to say can ensure that the intervention itself runs smoothly and with a structure. You should concentrate on your concern and move forward rather than laying any blame on anyone.
That’s really important, and by showcasing why you’re worried and the impact it’s having on you and others can really hit home that they have a problem.
Setting boundaries
Be clear about what you will and will not tolerate if your loved one refuses treatment. This may involve practical limits, such as not providing financial support or covering up their behaviour.
The Role of a Professional: They Could Help
You may want to consider getting a professional involved to help with the smooth and effective running of the intervention. Many choose to involve specialists or counsellors, and they can help keep discussions focused and prevent any emotion from escalating.
They can also help plan the logistics of the event, and give you access to treatment and help should your loved one agree to it.
Conducting the Intervention
Timing and environment matter. Choose a quiet, private space free from distractions, and avoid holding the intervention when your loved one is intoxicated or under extreme stress. The conversation should begin with expressions of love and concern, moving towards honest but compassionate accounts of how their addiction has caused harm.
Presenting a treatment plan is essential. Rather than simply urging them to “get help”, provide a clear pathway – for example, a place in a rehab centre that has already been researched and arranged. The goal is to reduce barriers and make it easier for your loved one to say “yes” in the moment.
Common Reactions: What You Can Expect
It is important to be prepared for resistance. Your loved one may feel defensive, angry, or even deny there is a problem. Stay calm, avoid arguing, and reiterate your support. If they refuse treatment, remind them that the offer remains open, and continue to encourage healthier choices where possible.
Sometimes, several conversations are needed before a person is ready to commit to rehab.
Why Rehab? The Final Destination
The goal of an intervention is to get them the help they need and the best place to do that is rehab. It provides access to safe detox, therapy and they will be able to build effective coping strategies for long term recovery.
Get the intervention right and your loved one will no doubt be keen to get the help they need, and you can slowly but surely get back the person you love and give them a platform for a happier and healthier future.
